No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
by Harriet Frew on June 18th, 2017

Body image anxiety used to be mainly a female concern, unless you were a jockey, body builder or underwear model. However, men are increasingly affected by body image concerns and these are particularly notable in younger men, raised alongside the powerful influence of the internet and social media. Men typically aspire to a lean, muscular ‘ideal’, whereas in women, the desire swings more towards a thin silhouette.


The evidence
A study of 394 British men at the Centre of Appearance Research at the University of the West of England a few years ago showed that 38% of men would sacrifice at least a year of their life in exchange for a perfect body. Some large-scale surveys have found that overall male body image dissatisfaction has increased by 300% over the past three decades, showing a considerable upward change in this trend.

by Harriet Frew on May 16th, 2017


As the temperature is warming, people are gradually shedding clothes and revealing skin, wearing skimpy shorts, vest tops and sandals. For many of us though, the thought of baring flesh and exposing limbs can automatically induce a bout of anxiety. The pressure to have achieved ‘the bikini body’ seems to be pressing from all angles. Instagram is full of pictures of beach-honed bodies and eating plans promising quick results. Conversations at the water cooler from well-meaning friends increasingly focus on holidays and summer parties. You might feel that the only way you can cope with this impending pressure is to opt for a dietary overhaul or liquid shakes for several weeks. However, before, you venture down this potentially damaging journey towards your poor body and eating habits, stop and take a pause. Here are five survival tips for feeling body confident now: -

by Harriet Frew on April 11th, 2017

It can feel like an insurmountable task to ‘get it right’ with your child in helping them to develop a healthy body image and balanced eating habits. On the one hand, we hear daily scaremongering news of the dangers of obesity and eating too much sugar. Simultaneously, we are also terrified of our child developing an eating disorder and becoming too thin.  The culture and environment do not support our efforts, with cheap, tasty, processed food available in abundance, whilst we at the same time we continue to be bombarded by perfect social-media images. This discrepancy alone creates an unhelpful backdrop for trying to develop healthy attitudes towards body image and eating.   

As a therapist, I specialise in treating adults with eating disorders. The seeds of the eating disorder are often inadvertently sewn early on life, and by the time someone comes to see me, it can be a challenge to untangle the complex web of issues that have unwittingly influenced someone in their childhood and adolescent years. I am going to talk here about some of the common themes that arise from childhood around eating and body image, with suggestions for parents for providing positive support.
 

by Harriet Frew on March 2nd, 2017

You might feel dubious about how therapy could help you overcome an eating disorder. Perhaps the eating disorder feels entrenched into your identity and losing it would feel like losing a life-long friend?  Maybe you have fears about change and feel anxious when considering a life without it? How can a counsellor possibly help you untangle this complicated relationship you have with the eating disorder? These can be real and common anxieties when someone is thinking about having therapy.

 Here are 9 ways that therapy can help: 


1.     AMBIVALENCE: it is likely that you might feel in two minds about change. One part of you desperately wants to move on and let go of a destructive relationship with food and your body. However, another part of you just can’t. This can feel confusing as your feelings about the eating disorder might vary day-by-day or hour-by-hour. Your therapist can help you explore this ambivalence and recognise what the eating disorder means to you. Maybe it is a way of coping with difficult feelings? Maybe it is a way of trying to control your weight? Maybe it is deeply familiar and offers safety and reassurance? In therapy, you can gain greater understanding about your ambivalence, and this can put powerful building blocks in place for change.....

by Harriet Frew on February 16th, 2017


As we've reported countless times before on ELLE, anxiety and depression are real threats to the population's wellbeing, affecting at least one in five people and with women being 70 per cent more likely to succumb to it during their lifetime than men, according to a YouGov survey conducted for Mental Health Awareness Week and The National Institute for Mental Health respectively.

Here at ELLE, we take as proactive an approach as possible towards managing anxiety among our staff and we urge that you do too.
Recently we invited Louise Chunn, founder of Welldoing.org, and Harriet Frew, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, to speak to the ELLE team, identifying for us some key ways to tackle anxiety and symptoms of depression from the outset.

Here is what they had to say...





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No more diets and deprivation. Enjoy food whilst looking good and feeling great about your body shape.