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Body Image Confession! The Drama of Buying Jeans
by Harriet Frew on October 25th, 2020

I consider myself to have surprisingly good body image. I’d say a solid 8 out of 10 most of the time.

I enjoy the process of getting dressed and choosing one of my favourite dresses. It doesn’t take more than two minutes to make a choice and feel quite relaxed and happy about it. A quick glance in the mirror is enough to reassure myself that everything is facing the right way and no obvious bloopers.

I have radical acceptance of my pear shape, with the slimmer upper body and curves below. I’m never going to be in adoring love with my hips and thighs, but I’ve certainly made my peace with them.

The genetic lottery has bestowed me with toned arms, without doing a jot of exercise and if I do lift a weight, I get muscles!

And pre-children, I did have defined waist; not so much now, but you know, good clothes do hide a multitude of sins. Especially my favourite leopard print.

You win some and you lose some with genetics.

Dresses and flared skirts are my go-to body confidence boosters. Enhance the more favourable parts and celebrate the goodish bits!

I know that body aesthetics are fleeting and temporary to grasp onto.

I’m grateful for a healthy and strong body that has allowed me to walk into town today and kick the autumn leaves; run upstairs with a pile of washing without an ache or pain and shift the guinea pig hutch to a new found spot in the garden, without a thought.

And I know that in ten years time, I will be probably longing for this body that I have now, as I wrinkle further and things move slowly southwards.

But I have a confession.

A body image niggle that has been holding me back.

Jeans. Buying them. Wearing them. Liking them.

In my twenties, I had some Levi 501s that fitted to perfection. I bought them in the USA, when doing Camp America and they were in an in-between size that USA labels do.

In the UK, I’ve always struggled with jeans. Frequently, I’ve bought a pair that fit when standing up or not breathing too much (!) but are not a comfortable choice to wear for a full day of sitting, eating and moving around.

Fundamentally, they did not fit.

But I had resisted buying the bigger size.

Hey, diet culture, you got me here.

And I’ve been avoiding jeans because I didn’t want to admit this – instead, wearing leggings and sportswear, like - forever.


You will be pleased to know that I have finally tackled this body image niggle full on.

This week, I have bought some jeans in a bigger size.

When wearing these jeans, I have blogged at my desk; eaten pizza and worn them from dawn till dusk.

And because they fit, I haven’t had to think about wearing them.

They are COMFORTABLE! They don’t dig in. I can even do deep breaths.

After an initial mini self-chastisement about not fitting into the smaller size (I am ashamed to admit), I have embraced the new ones and will continue to do so.

In disordered eating recovery, getting rid of clothes that are too small is a challenging but vital step forward.

Holding onto smaller sizes is like a having a psychological weight around your neck.

Be brave. Embrace the body you have. Celebrate it for health and vigour and strength.

Value it for everything it can do for you.

Posted in body diversity, Body image, Feeling fat    Tagged with buying jeans, body image, body neutrality, body acceptance, love your body


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