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Boosting self-worth in lockdown
by Harriet Frew on April 18th, 2020

I hope that you and your families are safe and well.

Your self-worth might have taken a battering recently, with a loss of routine or work; being confined to the house or feeling daily anxiety bubbling away.

Lockdown can highlight any areas where you have become overly dependent on external validation of your worth.

Suddenly, this is taken away and you're left very much in your own head. If you thoughts about yourself are not very kind or encouraging, you might be feeling pretty deflated and low.

If you don’t like yourself, it’s like having a 24-hour bully in your head. The bully notices when you trip up and fall over. It calls you a greedy pig when you eat that 5th biscuit. It tells you that other people don’t like you. It drip feeds criticism and self-loathing. Instead, you need to cultivate a kind and caring voice. It is time for the bully to leave and the caring nurturer to come and stay.

But how to change this?

1. CREATE THE HABIT

Consider the view that this self-love malarkey could actually be a nice idea and at least worth a try. It’s unlikely that you’re going to wake up one day and feel a gushing wave of self-love. Instead, it’s a bit like brushing your teeth or doing your homework. It’s a habit that you need to cultivate. You won’t always want to do it, but instead appreciate that it does pay off to make the effort.

2. TREAT YOURSELF, AS YOU DO OTHERS

Think about how you treat your beloved tabby cat or a dear friend. I am sure that you are thoughtful in your actions and kind in your texts and messages. You take care of them and meet their needs with food and rest. Self-love can involve adding little things to your day that bring you joy and happiness. Eg: a cup of frothy coffee in a beautiful cup, watching your favourite TV programme in your fluffy slippers or going outside on a beautiful Spring morning and breathing in the frosty air.

You’re probably quite good at these things already – you now just need to do this for YOU too.

3. IT’S NOT ALL BUBBLE BATHS AND NAILPAINTING

Self-love is not all bubble baths and nail painting. It can mean saying NO to something you don’t want to do. ‘I can’t do that for you this time but do ask me again’.

It frees you up for a resounding ‘yes’, when you actively want to opt in. So make some time to prioritise SELF-LOVE in lockdown.

Build up those inner reserves, so you feel less reliant on others to make you feel good.

Wishing you and your families health and calmness, through this very difficult time.

Harriet x

p.s. Do check out my PODCAST on Podbean if you haven't already - I'm excited to let you know that my next episode is going to include my very first guest. 


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