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7 destructive thought patterns that hinder eating disorder recovery
by Harriet Frew on January 28th, 2020

Are you plagued with pesky eating disorder thoughts that you just can’t switch off?

Without even knowing it, faulty thinking could be sabotaging your bravest efforts to transform your eating.

Before you completely blame your poor brain though, remember that if you are restricting your eating, then your thoughts around food are inevitably going to be LOUDER. A definite way to reduce these ruminating thoughts is to take the brave step of eating more, eating regularly, eating a range of foods and working to keep blood sugar stable.

Assuming you’ve done that, let’s talk more about faulty thinking.

With 60,000+ thoughts plus per day running through your mind and many being repetitive, you can see the power of your thoughts to potentially affect your mood and behaviour.

Negative thoughts often evoke intense emotional reactions such as anxiety, upset, guilt or overwhelm, these then having a profound impact on your actions. Unwittingly, you can be catapulted back into patterns of emotional eating, restrictive or over-eating as a consequence of negative thinking.

1. All or nothing thinking

‘I’m perfectly in control of my eating’ or ‘I’ve failed and am eating everything in sight’.

When you judge your eating in ‘all or nothing’ terms, the rules are often overly strict and therefore unsustainable. Many people can follow an eating plan for a few days or weeks. Beyond this, you will likely crack and rebel against the rigidity of your expectations.

Instead: Be more flexible in your thinking whilst being kind and compassionate towards yourself. Genuinely permit yourself to eat a range of foods without judgement. You will find that you actually desire the food less, when it is allowed.

 ‘I don’t need to overeat as I can have this food whenever I want it’.

2. 'Shoulds'

‘I should never eat this food’.

Some people need to genuinely eliminate foods from their diet for health reasons and it is also true that certain foods will enhance your mood and energy levels. However, militant ‘shoulds’ can feel suppressive and bring on feelings of deprivation. If you have a long list of foods you are forbidden to eat, you might well think, yearn and dream about them more. You may also be more inclined to rebel against your ‘shoulds’ and gorge on the banned food.

Instead: You can still eat healthily, whilst allowing in a range of foods.

‘Allowing myself to eat and enjoy this cake, prevents me feeling deprived and helps me to stick to my eating plan.

3. Fortune telling

‘I have no control around cheese’.

When you think you have no control around a specific food, you have almost set yourself on the dangerous path where your predictions can become truths. You will likely feel a slave to the food in front of you and helpless to change the outcome.

Instead: Believe you have control of your eating and collect evidence of this through experimentation. Introduce the dangerous food in a planned and safe way. Sit down at a table, really savouring and tasting the food. After eating, distract yourself and be super kind in your self-talk. Every time you exert control in this way, it is a little victory to help build self-confidence.

‘I can be in control around food’.

4. Surrendering

‘I always fail at my healthy eating so what’s the point of starting again’.

This kind of thinking saps all motivation and renders you powerless. Hence, you may surrender to your goals and raid the biscuit tin.

Instead: Be your own number one cheerleader. Whatever has just happened put this behind you and see yourself as persistent and resilient as you continue onwards.

‘I learn from my slip ups in the process of change’.

5. Discounting the positive

‘So what if I’ve followed my plan today, there is so much further to go’.

When you discount the positive, you don’t see the mountains you have already climbed, instead focusing on what seems like ‘the Everest’ ahead.

Instead: Recognise every little step and mini victory along the way.

‘Every day I am making progress towards my goals’.

6. Labelling

'I’m a greedy pig for eating the cake’.

Unkind thoughts will absolutely affect your mood and motivation. Failing to show yourself respect can likely lead you to become more self-punishing.

Instead: Talk to yourself in a kind and courteous manner. Avoid using discouraging names or labels.

‘I am resourceful and resilient, as I learn from my mistakes’.

7. Wishful thinking

'If only I was thinner then people would love me more’.

You put life on hold until you reach that magic weight. You fantasise that life will change when you ‘arrive’ and acceptance will finally be yours. This is a myth. Weight loss might certainly bring some health benefits (not if you are losing weight into the underweight range!) but it rarely boosts self-esteem in the way you hope for.

Instead: Live for today and pursue your dreams. Don't wait for the perfect moment.

‘I accept myself completely today’.

The first step to changing your thinking is through developing awareness. Decide today to become conscious of your thoughts and to be open and questioning of them. This is the starting point of change and potentially changing your eating habits for the long-term. I'll be writing more on how to to challenge these destructive thoughts soon.

Posted in Being mindful, Recovery, Thoughts    Tagged with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, recovery, eating disorder recovery, thoughts, thinking, cbt, challenge thoughts, awareness of thoughts


Julia Helman - August 6th, 2020 at 2:14 AM
your post is so helpful! ive self recovered from eating disorders since i was 11, 9 years later two years in and i am learning so much about myself ad my relationship with myself and your posts just give me the foundations to heal and grow as a person xxxxi can make cbt activities through your tips and your frameworks and it has helped me to recover more than anything else and i cant thank you enough, i appreciate you so much! giving you my love and strength xxx
- August 6th, 2020 at 8:05 AM
Thank you so much Julia. I appreciate your feedback. xxx
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