Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
The Relentless Dieting Cycle
by Harriet Frew on July 15th, 2019

Why do we diet in the first place?
From the moment you entered this world, messages in culture are abundant – from thin Disney princesses to magazines, TV programmes, diet adverts – whilst simultaneously, fat people are stigmatised and thought of as ‘less than’. Smaller bodies WRONGLY represent power, achievement, control and beauty.
Of course, not everybody is impacted by this brainwashing to the same degree.
We do know that early experiences that impact your self-worth can increase your vulnerability to wanting to change your weight/shape to feel better. Also, it you a sensitive, thinner-skinned person, then understandably you will pick up on the environmental pressures more strongly.
Childhood influences on self-worth can be the more obvious trauma or abuse, which is understandably devastating. More often though, it is the drip-drip detrimental impact on self-worth. Eg: pressure to perform and be perfect; an environment where emotions could not be expressed; a competitive peer environment or issues in friendships.
If your self-worth is predominantly linked to your weight and shape, rather than a broader picture, then how you look is going to impact your mood and thoughts about yourself 100%.
This leads to controlling your food intake in someway. It might be dieting; it might be eliminating food groups in the name of health; it will inevitabley involve going against your natural hunger signals.
Short-term this is often a ‘success’. Feelings of accomplishment and control abound.
Once the honeymoon is over, the cost of depriving your body kicks in. You are vulnerable to disordered eating: bingeing; purging; over-exercise; laxatives or diet pills as compensation for eating. At best, you probably feel guilty for eating. You might feel as if you have failed (because your main condition of self-worth has not been achieved). What a hard goal to nail anyway!
You might feel that you have to restrict further to get back in control. You get caught in a destructive loop.
Then, one day you give up. You feel hopeless. You might fall into a ‘don’t care’ attitude to eating. The only solution seems to be starting the whole cycle all over again. Exhausting!
It is a horrible, relentless cycle.
Are you caught in this cycle today? Are you wanting to break out of it?
If you want to join the conversation on this, do come over to Instagram and share your thoughts.

Never give up. Recovery is possible.

Warmest wishes

Harriet x

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