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3 ways to develop an authentic connection with your body
by Harriet Frew on May 17th, 2016

Do you listen to the messages and signals that your body sends you daily?
Or does your mind take over and squash these deep, to be ignored?
Some examples: -
Body: ‘I’m hungry.’
Mind: ‘You can’t be hungry now; it’s too early in the day.’
Body: ‘I’m full to bursting point.’
Mind: ‘I don’t care how full you are. Now, you’ve blown it, you might as well carry on and do it properly. You can be ‘good’ tomorrow.’
Body: ‘I need a break and want to move around.’
Mind: ‘Don’t be silly, there’s no time to stop. The deadline is looming.’
Body: ‘The pressure is rising in my chest and my rib cage wants to explode. I am tense and fuming.’
Mind: ‘Swallow it down. Just let it go. You don’t want to upset them. Your feelings aren’t so important.’
Body: ‘I need a rest. I am tired and exhausted.’
Mind: ‘You have to go the gym. You ate all that cake and need to burn it off.’
Frequently, we might do some or all of the above, ignoring our body signals to our detriment.
We forget to stop, listen and tune in to what our body is telling us.
Often, we have forgotten how to tune in to our body. We may have become dissociated from it.
This means that we miss the vital messages of communication that are readily available to us, for our benefit. The result being niggles and health-problems that arise from ignoring our body.
When we actually stop to think about the human body, is it not downright miraculous?  If you are fortunate to have a healthy and functioning body, the options for function, movement and experience can be endless. It is easy to forget this. Our thoughts are often clouded by the noise and demands of everyday life.
If you are feeling disconnected with your body, here are 3 ways to develop a deeper and more authentic connection with it: -
1. Begin to pay attention to your body. Once an hour, pause for a moment. Listen to what your body is telling you. Begin to respect and trust the messages you receive. 

2. Do something kind to your body every single day. Stretch or self-massage or go for a walk or breathe or have a relaxing bath. 

3. Keep positive body mantras at the front of your mind. 

‘My body is the most incredible thing I will ever own.’
‘Loving your body based purely on aesthetics is like loving your children only when they’re behaving well.’

Be kind and patient with yourself in your progress. If you have ignored your body for a long time, then it might take time to re-establish this connection. You might feel very mistrusting or ashamed of your body. If you are struggling with this, you may want to think about getting further support through counselling. Counselling can help you understand why you might be out of sync with your body. It can help you to tune in again, whilst supporting you in developing a healthier body image and greater self-acceptance.


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