No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
Looking back, looking forward....
by Harriet Frew on December 17th, 2014

So the end of 2014 is coming closer, a time to reflect and look back on the last twelve months. A time to think about new beginnings and opportunities. And you may have an overall sense of how this last year has gone. Maybe you have encountered changes; maybe experienced losses; maybe ventured into new terrains or maybe none of these.

And how do you feel your relationship with food has changed in 2014? Are you beginning to feel more relaxed and at peace with food and your body? Or maybe you are still feeling a bit stuck and hopeless and nothing seems to have altered. You can't see a light at the end of the tunnel.

When you are struggling with food and your body, whether your be over-weight, under-weight or in-between, it is likely that underneath this lies a fear and anxiety. Fear of not being good enough; fear of failure; fear of being your true self and not being liked or getting approval. An overall fear of life. Placing so much emphasis on being thin or trying to achieve it can be a misplaced attempt to feel better and to boost self-esteem. It can also quite effectively mask the other issues that are going on in relationships, work or family life that may need addressing. It is likely to prevent you from fulfilling your true potential because so much energy and time is directed into thinking about food and your body.

If you are in this place, you are likely to be critical, judgemental and disapproving of yourself. You are likely to have a million 'shoulds' and expectations that you feel you fall grossly short of. This might be fuelling you to already be considering the long list of resolutions for January when you feel that you will finally sort yourself out once and for all. You probably know in your heart that this approach isn't going to work. What will be different this time? You might feel a bit despondent even thinking about it.

This year, I encourage you to try a different method. If you are not where you hoped to be by December 2014, then compassion for yourself and for others is key. So much learning can be gained from when things don't go so well. I know I have learned so much from my own mistakes along the way.

Some questions for reflection
  • What has gone well this year? 
  • What have you achieved, however small? 
  • Which friendships have you strengthened or new ones have you made? 
  • What experiences have you shared and enjoyed? 
  • What has really made you laugh and feel joyful? 
  • And what are you grateful for? 
  • Has your body remained in good health? 
  • Are people close to you fit and well? 
  • Are you financially secure? 
  • Do you have people around you that care about you?
Notice that you have much to be thankful for. 

When you look back noticing the positives, I am sure the last year may have a very different feel.

As you move forward into the New Year treat with yourself with compassion, kindness and self-respect. The more you can be self-caring, this will undoubtedly support you in having a better relationship with food and your body.

Listen to your inner voice.

Be the best version of yourself that no-one else can be. You deserve to do this for yourself. By doing this, you give others around you the permission to be authentic also. And what a wonderful gift that is.

So no more: criticism; judgement; comparisons and beating yourself up. This only leads to self-loathing and feeling inadequate.

Set mini goals - they count for a great deal.

Set sustainable goals.

Celebrate every single little victory.

A final note. Thank you so much for reading my blogs. At the start of this year, I didn't even consider myself to be a writer (and I still have much to learn); but writing for all of you has enabled me to step outside my comfort zone and opened many doors. :)

I wish you a peaceful and relaxing Christmas and look forward to sharing more with you in the New Year.

Warmest wishes


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angela - December 18th, 2014 at 2:16 PM
thanks Harriet for all the blogs have read lots of them now and really enjoy reading them and find them useful .Keep them going to keep up your writing skills.
Harriet Frew - January 5th, 2015 at 4:08 AM
Thanks very much for sharing Angela. I appreciate your feedback. Harriet
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