Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Fat is not a feeling......
by Harriet Frew on October 27th, 2014

Fat is not a feeling; although you might often find yourself believing the contrary. ‘Feeling fat’ and ‘being fat’ are two entirely different things all together. ‘Feeling fat’ often has very little to do with body size or shape; rather it is more often an expression that something in our world isn’t right – instead of dealing with the problem, you might direct this onto your body.
So what else can ‘feeling fat’ mean?

1. I FEEL FAT. I feel insecure. 
I am comparing myself to my friend and feel I fall short.
2. I FEEL FAT. I feel let down. 
Someone has disappointed me.
3. I FEEL FAT. I think I should be perfect. 
I am not a size X and eternally youthful.
4. I FEEL FAT.  I have unrealistic expectations. 
I am not meeting my work deadlines.
5. I FEEL FAT.  I have broken a dietary rule. 
I feel I should be avoiding carbs and I’ve given in.
6. I FEEL FAT.  I am anxious about others judging my body. 
I am going swimming on Friday and I am worried about revealing my body.
7. I FEEL FAT.  I feel angry and upset. 
I just wish they’d listen to me.
8. I FEEL FAT. I feel disappointed. 
I really wanted her to include me. I feel left out.
9. I FEEL FAT. I feel ashamed. 
I have no self-control around eating and no-one knows.
10.  I FEEL FAT. I feel guilty. 
I should be doing more at home.

So next time you find yourself ‘feeling fat’, take a pause. What is it really about? Try not to waste time directing the problem towards your body. Dieting, losing weight, body obsessions are not going to solve these deeper issues. At least not for very long!
Please do post below if you feel inspired to share what ‘feeling fat’ means for you. I would love to hear from you.
Best wishes

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