Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Is Facebook wrecking your self-esteem?
by Harriet Frew on October 14th, 2014

  • Are you inspired by role models on social media?
  • Do you flick through your friend’s Facebook photos with a mix of envy and admiration?
  • Do you feel that your body or your life can never measure up to these images of perfection?
  • Does it leave you feeling inadequate and inferior?
You are not alone. Scientific studies earlier this year and also reported in the media confirm the connection between time spent on Facebook and negative body image. People that spend more time on social media are more likely to compare themselves to their friends, and then in turn, this was shown to generate negative attitudes towards their own appearance.

And it is a confusing world. Health websites, glossy on-line magazines and many a ‘guru’ tend to promote the pursuit of physical perfection and eating the ultimate healthy diet under ‘health, vitality and feeling good’. Peeking inside someone’s food diary for a week or asking someone about their fitness regime; these are then displayed as glossy, flawless, beautifully illustrated – all feeding our anxiety that these things matter; we should be upholding these standards and that we are not quite good enough.

Remember that very few people can maintain these super regimes without substantial support from experts, personal chefs, lots of cash and few personal life challenges. What you don’t always see is the darker side of disordered eating, weight obsession and exercise addiction which can be masked behind the super-coping, front. Okay not true for everyone, but sadly true for many.

4 tips to remember when engaging with social media

  1. You are looking at the airbrushed, filtered, glossy, photo-shopped, unreal version of someone’s life. You DO NOT know what is going on behind the beautiful front. Do not take it at a face value.
  2. Social media is brilliant and can add wonderful benefits to our lives for communication and the sharing of special moments. However, limit your time looking at material that YOU KNOW will trigger negative feelings about your body image or your self-worth.
  3. If you want to go on-line, find some sassy role-models who promote empowerment, self-acceptance and leading a great life, rather than the pursuit of the body or lifestyle beautiful.
  4. Avoid wasting headspace and time with fruitless comparisons with others. Focus on being your best self and investing time, energy and enthusiasm in what matters to you. This won’t leave you time to waste endless hours peering in on the lives of others! 

If you would like to share your own experiences of how your self-worth is affected by your use of social media, please do post below.

If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.


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