No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
I don't want to love my body; I just want to lose weight
by Harriet Frew on October 13th, 2014

10 top tips for getting that body love today………………………………….
 
  1. Next time you are traipsing out to the shops to get your dry-cleaning or buy that much needed morning latte, get people watching and REALLY notice around you who is looking good. Is it always the skinny bird? Personal style with clothes, confidence and attitude; striking colour – they all have a much greater impact than thin. Real women (and there are heaps of them) look appealing and attractive in all shapes and sizes.
  2. How much time are you spending on Instagram and Facebook or other social media? Put away the lustful body worship porn of celebs, models and lifestyle gurus promoting the body beautiful. Remember these images are mostly photo shopped, airbrushed, and with fabulous lighting and make-up. Plus a good proportion of these people have personal trainers, chefs, lots of cash and an entourage to support them in the pursuit and maintenance of their body. Is it really a realistic comparison to judge yourself against these people? No way.
  3. Remember what your body can do for you today. In a few years’ time, you will yearn to have a body with firmer skin; the ability to sprint in the opposite direction when next door’s dog attacks; dance like crazy pretending you are Rihanna or to have legs that are smooth and vein free. Trust me, I am no means old but give me my body of 10 years ago and I would not be turning you down.
  4. When you look in the mirror, DO NOT fixate on your thighs, wobbly bottom, rounded tummy or other perceived imperfections. Look at yourself as a whole and really embrace your positive qualities.  If you asked me to scrutinise the tops of my thighs daily for 30 minutes, ‘a thigh complex’ would have undoubtedly developed by this time next week. Do not waste your thinking time with such pursuits.
  5. What is your THING for making you feel better? I never leave the house without mascara, eyeliner and one of my favourite dresses. If I didn’t do this, I would undoubtedly feel a bit ‘meh’. What is your thing?
  6. Your weight is not your worth. How bonkers to let a number dictate your day and your self-esteem. If you are an obsessive weigher, stick the scales in a non-accessible place and only look at them on occasion.
  7. Stop trying to wear clothes that are too small or dig in. This is an immediate way to feeling fat. And ‘feeling fat’ is a whole different thing to actually being fat, trust me.
  8. Okay you might want to lose a bit of weight, but don’t fall into the trap of putting your life on hold until this happens. We are programmed to rebel against the inner, critical voice that insists on impossible standards of perfection. Kindness, compassion and support to the self will actually achieve far greater results and will paradoxically help prevent punishing over-eating.
  9. Slather on that body cream; have a massage; do some yoga; have a make-over; show your body some love and respect through action.
  10. Get clear on your values. Yes, a healthy and toned bod might be up there in your top ten but check that your pursuit of body perfection isn’t getting out of proportion. When you are 90 and looking back on your wonderful life; friends, family and experiences are going to rate much higher up than the size of your thigh gap or getting into ‘that dress’ for the office party.
If you have any more tips to share, please do post below. I would love to hear from you.

Harrietx


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