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Stop going on about self-care!
by Harriet Frew on September 24th, 2014

 Self-care is taking care of you as a priority. Ensuring you get enough sleep, healthy amounts of food; relaxation; fun; stimulating work; time with friends; moving your body – all in amounts that enable you to be the best and most fabulous version of  yourself.

Self-care is one of those things you might feel would be worthy of doing, but never quite gets a look in between work commitments; ferrying children; ploughing through the laundry and the ‘to-do’ list that never seems to diminish. However, self-care is not a luxury to be squeezed in after everything else as you flop on the sofa and reach for wine, food or fall asleep. It is a necessary necessity to keep you in top form and feeling your finest.

5 reasons to embrace self-care today
  1. When you are treating yourself as a special person who deserves care and respect, then your inclination to starve or over-eat will significantly reduce. Why self-punish; this would just not be compatible with taking care of you?
  2. When you look after yourself well, you will start to respect and like yourself more. Others will mirror this back to you and you will be treated accordingly.
  3. It is a myth that getting thin and achieving the killer body will suddenly transform your inner feelings of worthiness. Typically, this process is driven through control and self-punishment, which is not going to bring happiness and long-term fulfilment. Don’t put self-care on hold until that magical day when you reach X stones.
  4. Self-care is associated with health; energy; nutritious food; delicious and enjoyable fare; savouring the moment; living spontaneously; moving your body to feel good. When you value yourself, your choices will reflect this.
  5. When you are taking care of you, you will radiate energy and joy. You will have a bounce in your step. You will reach out more to others. You will take yourself and the world more lightly. What’s not to love? 

Here are a few of my instant self-care pick me ups

  • Feeling glamorous with red lipstick and fake fur!
  • Laughing lots
  • Uplifting music
  • Passing time away in coffee shops
  • Alone time in book shops
  • Stimulating work
  • Being silly with the children and having fun
  • Concerts, live theatre; cinema
  • Long, hot soaks in the bath
  • Chocolate muffins and avocados (not together!)
  • Waking refreshed after 8 hours of sleep

 My instant put me downs to avoid

  • Clothes that I have had too long and worn too much
  • Boring routines
  • Becoming a control freak with my to-do list
  • Working too hard
  • Saying yes when I mean no
  • Lack of focus; drifting
  • Bad hair day
  • Being too serious.

What are you doing to take care of you today? Get a pen and paper and write down a list of 10 things you can start to implement right now. If you feel inspired, please do post below.
If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.


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