No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
What the most successful people do....
by Harriet Frew on August 10th, 2014

Whilst on holiday I have enjoyed reading Lauren Vanderkam’s book – ‘What the most successful people do before breakfast’. If you are interested, I can highly recommend it as an inspiring read. In the early hours people everywhere are achieving a myriad of things whilst gaining real productivity and satisfaction. They are getting fit; spending time with family or writing ‘that book’ that they have always wanted to do. It is the focused, uninterrupted nature of this time of day that allows people to really crack on with achieving their goals.

As much as I was encouraged by the read, I recognised my own internal resistance to early waking striking immediately. Although I am a morning person, I am not an early morning person. Those last precious minutes of sleep are exactly that (very precious)! Reading the book has not suddenly brought about any major life changes – yet! But I am great believer that increased self-awareness is always the first step before making a change and this has happened for me. I am thinking differently and considering options.

As I’m sure you might relate to, we never seem to have enough time. I know I often feel that I can be on a treadmill of trying to juggle the home, family, and work and my vision of where it is all going has become a bit muddled. I am certainly not unhappy. I have a life that is full and energising. But I know I could make this even better with a few tweaks.

Having a bit of a holiday recently has brought dividends – for the first time in ages, there has been time to do less; sit and read and take stock. Actually stopping, has allowed me to have more clarity and understanding about the longer term direction of things. I feel more proactive, less reactive. I am more in touch with my values.

And okay, we can’t have holidays every day. But I know that if I start to build more downtime into my daily life, seeing this as necessary and valuable, this is going to allow me to work and live with more creativity, energy and productivity. Already, through greater self-awareness and self-reflection I feel I have more clarity, energy and focus.

And some of this focus can be helpful in channelling constructive thinking into how you manage your relationship with food and your body. When you are living a busy existence with no time to reflect, starving or bingeing or body checking might seem like a good use of time. But how are these things taking you towards your long-term goals.

5 ways to add a pause in everyday life
  1. Find the time to have a bit of head space just for YOU every single day! Some people meditate; or go for a walk or just sit and be. This time is really important. It stimulates creativity; helps keep you focused on what is important; helps you centre again.
  2. Make a vision board posting pictures, stories, photos, poetry – of your ideal life. Get inspired and hold on to the vision. Look at it regularly. When your are having a bad day, it will help you keep the bigger picture.
  3. With eating, s-l-o-w it down. Taste your food. Sit at the table. Enjoy every mouthful. I aim to always sit down to eat, - even if it is for 30 seconds whilst I polish off the last chocolate.
  4. When you can, get physical. Walk, dance, play with children; take the stairs. Don’t make it a chore or a ‘should’. Just a little 5 minutes here and there adds up to a lot. It also helps shift your energy and focus.
  5. Regularly read inspiring books, information, blogs, articles. We all need anchors to help keep us on track. We are bombarded by media; people around us; our own thoughts – we need to regularly get re-inspired.


If you have a tip to share with others about how you stay in touch with yourself and keep focused, do post below.

If you would like to get in touch with me about exploring some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am moving my practice from Canterbury to Saffron Walden in Essex from September. I am still available for ongoing work and offer Skype and telephone options for consultations if this works for you. Look forward to hearing from you.

Warmest wishes
Harrietx



Posted in Motivation and change, Being mindful    Tagged with no tags


0 Comments

Leave a Comment


Tags
10 lessons 10 tips 10 ways therapy can help 10 ways 12 days of christmas 20 ways to stop bingeing now 3 steps 5 things to learn 5 ways to silence inner critic 5 ways Bingeing Control ELLEUK ELLE Eating Disorder Eating problem Inside Out Louise Chunn Managing emotions New Year Perfectionism Sleep Welldoing.org action all or nothing anorexia nervosa anorexia anxiety eating anxiety assertiveness assertive beach body beautiful people behaviours being authentic bikini body plan bikini body binge eating disorder binge eating bingeeating bite by bite body dysmorphia body image workbook body image buimia bulimia nervosa bulimia cake caring what others think cbt challenging negative thoughts change children christmas clean eating cognitive behaviour therapy comfort eating comparing self to others comparions comparisons compulsive eating confidence conflict about body size connection contribution counselling criticism deception developing awareness developing healthy relationship with food dieting disordered eating early experiences eating disorders eating when hungry eatingdisorder eating embracing change emotional eating emotions envy evening eating expectations feelings food obsession food friendship fulfilment fun geneen roth giving up dieting giving guilt habit happiness healthy eating healthy food healthy weight helpful help how counselling can change your life hunger identity inferior insulin iphone janet treasure jealousy joy judgement kind to body letting go lies listen to body loneliness lose weight love body male body image media meeting your needs men and eating disorders mental health mind body connection mindful eating mindfulness mirror motivation ninja warrior not dieting obesity obsession with food obsession on eating orthorexia over-eating overcoming fear overeating parenting people pleasing pixar film pleasure positive problem reading about eating disorders reading recovery relapse relationships resolutions restriction rest role model root of problem rules about eating rules around eating sabotage saying no secret eating self awareness self conscious self esteem self-acceptance self-awareness self-awarness self-care self-compassion self-confidence self-criticism self-esteem self-help book self-help self-kindness self-love self-worth selfcare shoulds social anxiety social eating social media stop bingeing stop dieting stress success summer support susie orbach tablet television therapy thinking about food thinking styles thinking thinner self thin thoughts about food thoughts to my client who is struggling ulrike schmidt undereating unkind to self values value weight conflict weight loss weight wellbeing when food is love when therapy is hard work
No more diets and deprivation. Enjoy food whilst looking good and feeling great about your body shape.