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Emotional eating
by Harriet Frew on July 27th, 2014

Eating can work very effectively short-term to make you feel better. It soothes and comforts you. It helps you forget everything.  It is time for you. It is an act of rebellion against having to be a ‘good’.
And sometimes, food really does hit the spot. A temporary euphoria and boost in self-esteem and blood sugar.
But the problem can be afterwards. Guilt, self-loathing, criticism, negative self-talk..........................
No wonder you need some more food to feel better again! The cycle continues....
The key is to start to TUNE IN and recognise your emotional triggers. A great way to do this is to keep a food and feelings diary. Try it for a couple of days as a starting point. Your awareness will increase significantly.
6 COMMON REASONS FOR EMOTIONAL EATING and some familiar thinking that goes with it.......................
  1. Boredom ‘what to do right now. Hmmm think I will have a biscuit’.
  2. Loneliness – ‘I’m feeling alone; I have no-one who really understands me or cares about me deeply’.
  3. Overwhelmed ‘I have too much to do.  I can’t do it – I should be able to’.
  4. Anxiety ‘what if’ what if.............the worst case scenario is going to happen’.
  5. Guilt ‘I should say yes’.
  6. Resentment ‘I feel taken for granted’.

I could go on........ 

A lot of emotional eating is quite habitual. It’s nothing to do with deep seated demons! It can be the sight of cakes at 4pm when you are feeling a bit jaded; a bit bored with work or thinking about the next few hours ahead getting your kids sorted.
Some of it does run deeper.  It might not always be completely obvious and need a bit of unpicking. In these cases, try and remember the first time you found yourself eating in this way. What was going on then?  What were the emotions you were feeling? What did you think you really needed apart from food?
Always try and think - what is it that I need right now? Sometimes it might be food, often it isn’t........

  • If you are bored, maybe you need stimulation, excitement, a change.
  • If you are lonely, maybe you need to reach out and be proactive in forging your social networks. Maybe you need to ask people close to you for what you need?
  • If you are overwhelmed, maybe your ‘to do list’ is too long. Think about lowering your expectations.
  • If you are anxious, what else could you do to manage your anxiety? A walk? Breathing? Writing a journal.
  • If you are guilty, how much of this is appropriate guilt? How might someone else respond to this?
  • If you feeling resentful, maybe you need to learn to say NO more. 
  • Do you eat to manage your emotions?  Be brave, be bold and post below. 

If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.
Best wishes

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