Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
RETHINK YOUR BODY
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
What you should be doing.....
by Harriet Frew on July 8th, 2014

 Do you value your self worth on what you feel you SHOULD be doing? Are you ruled by the little voice in your head that is constantly berating, bullying and pushing you to be someone who you are not? You might have never questioned this before, but be on autopilot. Where is this ‘should’ coming from? Was there someone in your early life that is still influencing you today?
 
I used to be completely ruled by shoulds and consequently was not a happy bunny at all! Trying to twist myself to meet others expectations was a gruelling and confusing process. I started to wonder ‘who am I in all of this’?
 
These are some of my old shoulds......
 
  • I should be good at maths and mental arithmetic.
  • I should have long, glossy, silky, straight hair.
  • I should be well informed at dinner parties on current affairs and important matters; otherwise I am really not intelligent.
  • I should check out someone else’s opinion before I express my own.
  • I should please my parents and follow their career plans for me.
  • I should smile at people even when they really annoy me.
  • I should be religious.
  • I should cook a proper meal for my family every single day 

I could go on.........................
 
 
Thankfully, over the years, I have shed the shoulds and started to embrace my true frizzy haired, emotionally connected; people person self who is a bit crazy at times and still can’t work behind a bar and add up a round in my head. But it’s okay. When I concentrate on my natural strengths; the things I love and being my authentic self, then the feeling of happiness and contentment is worth everything.
 
3 tips for getting rid of your shoulds
 

1. Get a pen and paper. Write a list of your shoulds. Get in touch with them.

2. Question your shoulds; are these yours or are they imposed by others? Take a good look and root out the ones that don’t work for you anymore.

3. Focus on your strengths; the things you love; being you – the rest will follow. 

Be inspired. What are you going to take from this today? Be brave, be bold and post below.
 
If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.
 
Best wishes
Harrietx



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