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Taking control of your thinking
by Harriet Frew on July 1st, 2014

Your thoughts are a constant stream of chattering in your head. 60,000 thoughts plus per day. Eek!  
What are you thinking about?
Are you even aware of how your thinking time is made up?
Many of our thoughts are very unconscious and also repetitive. You can often tell the type of thoughts you are having by how you are feeling. Happy, sad, anxious, overwhelmed; cross......etc
I find late afternoons a difficult time. I am home with my family and everyone has multiple needs and demands. What with dinner preparation; me feeling tired; family being tired; me feeling overwhelmed and over busy. And I know that my thinking doesn’t help sometimes. A lot of ‘I can’t do everything; I should be more organised; this is not going well etc’.
Yesterday when I was cooking, I had the radio on and there a sequence of great songs. What a mood changer that was for me!  The music took me out of myself; I felt more relaxed and able to shift my perspective. I was more tolerant of those around me. I was able to see the funny side of the situation. I started to think ‘why don’t I do this every day?’ Would it really be so hard?  Such a simple change and what a difference!
1. What activities for you can instantly change your mood and make you feel better. For me, I love music, dancing (not very well!); running round the garden with my children; laying in the bath and switching off; reading books; reading magazines; going out in the garden for 5 minutes. 

2. Think of someone in your life who really makes you smile. Spend 30 seconds focusing on being with this person and looking back on a time you spent together. This is an instant mood lifter. 

3. Start to become more aware of your thoughts. If you are feeling anxious, upset, angry, overwhelmed. Stop and pause. What is going on here? 
  • Are you comparing yourself to others?
  • Are your expectations unrealistic?
  • Are you focusing on the negative of a situation?
  • Are you underestimating your own capabilities?
  • Do you need a break?
4. When you find yourself being negative, consider how you would talk to a friend in the same situation. How would you reassure them and talk kindly to them? 

5.Be thankful every-day for the things you have in your life. We often forget how much we have. I know I do. 

6. Daily, recognise the things you have achieved, completed, ticked off, rather than the things you didn’t get done. 

Be inspired. What are you going to take from this today? Be brave, be bold. Go over to my blog page at and share your thoughts.
If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.
Best wishes

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