Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Weight conflict
by Harriet Frew on April 8th, 2014

Do you long to be slim and shed those pounds?
Do you know that weight gain would be sensible but you feel stuck?
Thoughts about weight can cause huge amounts of distress and upset. So much value can be based on getting the number right. Rationally, weight does offer a measure of some use but not to the extent where our self-worth; value and significance rest so much on this. What do you think?
Anyone that has dieted will fully appreciate that achieving their perceived ‘perfect weight’ did not bring the eternal happiness and feelings of self-fulfilment that they had hoped for. Why? Their thinking about weight is still pretty skewed (and also the ‘right weight’ unfortunately doesn’t take life’s problems away !)
I am sure that for most of you, this is what you would like long-term: -
  • Being slim
  • Being a healthy and SUSTAINABLE weight (ie: one that you can have pretty much for the rest of your life!)
  • Not thinking about food all the time because you are deprived
  • Not eating for when you really need sleep, self-care or to solve a problem
  • Eating delicious food and enjoying it
  • Socialising with friends

Often, though people get stuck. They might think they want these things BUT they might have a conflict going on. People attribute certain labels to their thinner selves and fatter selves. These are some of the things people mention.
Thin might be associated with power; aloofness; control; superiority; vulnerability; sexually attractive; attract attention; protection; unapproachable; stuck-up; less examples.
Fat might be associated with being warm; approachable; looks after others; safe; invisible; protected; self-loathing; greedy; funny person etc.
Fat and thin will mean very different things to different people in terms of the associations you make with body size. The interpretation of what fat and thin mean will be very different also. For one person, fat might mean 15 stone and for another it might be 7 stone. How you think about weight is the key.
Giving up your perceived fatness or thinness is a whole lot more than just body size. Have a think, what is getting in your way right now?
What do you relate to? Be brave and post below.
If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.

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