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Is feeling fat holding you back?
by Harriet Frew on March 17th, 2014

Fantastic article in Grazia this week where Anna Hart talks about the occasions she has missed due to feeling fat and bad about her appearance.  Anna is a successful, beautiful journalist who actually ticks every box we value in our culture to determine achievement and accomplishment. Anna is acutely aware of how she does not want to be thinking negative thoughts about her appearance but is frustrated that she cannot stop this.
 
Perfect body = happiness?
 
But what’s going on here though? If perfect body = perfectly happy person then maybe we’d be on to something. If I had a magic wand and could zap you to your perceived ‘perfect body’ by lunchtime today, would you really be happy? You might think YES of course; get me that wand right now. Life would be a breeze. Problems would be solved. I would instantly become that positive, happy, interesting person that has always been waiting to emerge.
 
I know many people that have dieted down to a smaller size; they get there and they still feel the same. They still feel fat; they still uncomfortable with their body. They don’t feel at ease.
 
How you think is key
 
This secret here though is about our MINDSET and how we think about our bodies. This is so central to how we feel and then how we present ourselves to the world.  With 60,000 thoughts plus day, if you are spending a lot of time thinking things like ‘my thighs are too big’ ‘I am fat’ etc and then you are doing things like looking in the mirror numerous times and staring at your ‘imperfections’ rather than noticing your beautiful eyes or glossy hair, then no wonder you are not going to be feeling great.  If you are looking at Miss Skinny’s legs across the way and obsessing on them rather than taking a realistic look round at the range of bodies you are coming into contact with, then no wonder you are getting a skewed perspective. We all do it! It does us no favours.
 
So what to do about it? You might be thinking, well that’s all very well Harriet Frew, but I don’t FEEL like that is true or that I can do this. Well here’s another thing, to begin to make the shift in your mindset you need to start doing this regardless of how you feel. If you wait until you feel like doing it, the day might never come.
 
Persevere
 
I am sure you persist in other areas of your life when you want a different outcome. Things often feel so unnatural to start with, but this doesn’t stop you persevering and pushing through, does it? Eg: learning to drive; mastering a skill. You push through because you really want the end goal.
 
So go out there today and start to notice how your thoughts are affecting how you feel about your body. Start to be kinder and more supportive of your body.
 
Good luck. Do let me know how you get on. If you would like to get in touch about working with me to explore some of these issues further, I would love to hear from you. I am passionate about helping you to eat all the foods you love; and feel great about your body without disordered eating or dieting.
 
Harrietx
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 


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