Counselling support for eating disorders and body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
So this is how you spend your day?
by Harriet Frew on March 3rd, 2014

Every minute is precious. You want to be spending your time focusing on the things that are of VALUE and importance to you. Not the size of your thighs; what you have just eaten or not eaten and what others might be thinking about your body. Do you know how much time you waste everyday because these issues dominate your thoughts?
Here is an extract from ‘a day in the life’ when eating and body image concerns have taken over: -
I wake up. I HAVE to weigh myself. Tricky situation – if I have gained weight – terror, self-punishment, failed again etc. If I have lost weight – fear, terror, that this is temporary and that I am about to blow it all very soon. Get on the scales with one leg balancing gingerly down to get lowest possible reading. I have gained ½ lb. Oh dear - go into bedroom and do 50 sit-ups straight away.  
It is good to eat breakfast.  But what to eat for breakfast? I would really like an almond croissant but there is no way I am going to allow myself that.  That would be so unhealthy, fattening, greedy – not going there. Instead, I eat porridge (made with water, not milk though). Breakfast is bland, but hey, I am on track for getting this healthy food situation sussed.
Get ready for work; takes ages; nothing fits; take 3 outfits out several times and then wear something completely different after the whole palaver. Can’t bear looking in the mirror. Every part of my body is looking huge. Wish I hadn’t had those extra biscuits last night.
Leave the house in VERY bad mood.
Get to work. Have a cup of tea. Look at my reflection in the Ladies – stand at several different angles to view stomach. Alas, no angle is a winner.
Busy meeting; feel overwhelmed; keep thinking about food; am I hungry? Who knows? I want to eat now though. It is only 10.30am. Can’t  possibly be hungry yet.
See Miss Perfect in size 8 flouncing round office and looking great. Feel even more miserable. My tummy would never look like that. Need to do more sit-ups; must remember to fit them in this evening.
Lunch – must not eat carbs; must not eat carbs. Ooh I really fancy carbs. But I won’t eat them, I am going to be disciplined and controlled.
Feeling a bit deprived but also a bit virtuous. Think I am getting a hold on this.
Cakes have arrived in the office. I do not need cake. I do not want a cake. Feeling smug with level of self-control.
Friend phones and cancels get together this evening. Feel alone and down.  Was really looking forward to this. I have eaten a cake before I know it. AAAH!
Go to Ladies; I can see I have gained weight already. I just look frumpy and fat.......
I’ve blown it; why not eat another cake? No point holding back now; I can finally have a bit of freedom. Anyway, I have deserved it. It has been a hard day.
I am sure that everyone is looking at me and thinking how greedy I am and that I have no willpower. Feel so self-conscious.
Etc etc
Sometimes we just don’t realise just how much our lives are taken over by concerns with food.  It has become our normality. What a waste of precious time, energy, talent and money though! What could you be doing if that time was freed up? Think about it. Take some steps today to turn this around!

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Counselling support for eating disorders and body image.