Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Off to Binge Island!
by Harriet Frew on February 25th, 2014

​We are all too busy. Life can be overwhelming. The juggle of getting that life balance all sussed with work; home; children; pets; social life; hobbies; etc etc. And then when you do have a spot of free time; I bet you feel that you should be doing something really productive. We receive strong messages that we need to be efficient and keep going constantly. Guilt and unease creep in when we have too much time out.
The thing is we all need time off from the treadmill of life and when you don’t stop, you can feel constantly tired; under the weather; down in your mood and thinking ‘is this it?’ If are vulnerable to using food to cope, this is when bingeing, over-exercise, starving can all take a role. On the surface, this might seem a little bit crazy; however, in the short-term these strategies can actually provide a bit of distraction and light relief.
Let’s take bingeing. This has different interpretations to each individual. For one, eating 1 biscuit may trigger all the thinking associated with a binge. For another, it might be eating a cupboard full of food and then some.  In the short-term, bingeing can give INTENSE pleasure; with a good blood sugar, energy and endorphin rush. It is something that can be done, alone and in secret (finally time just for YOU!). It is rare that people binge when amongst others. Temporarily you are getting that escape and are jumping off the treadmill of life, just for a little bit. Bingeing achieves this as it is often quite a dissociated experience (off to binge-island for a while!); everything can be obliterated and you don’t have to care about your boss; the pile of washing or the demands of everyone else.
We tend to associate bingeing with this kind of mindset ‘I’ve had one, so I might as well eat the whole packet’; I deserve this, I’ve had a hard day’; I am upset and angry and I need to feel better’. If you were thinking ‘that food was delicious; I just love chocolate’ – that wouldn’t really be a problem as long as you weren’t doing it too often. But after a binge, it is rare that people feel good. This is when guilt, regret, shame and disgust can set in. Self-loathing and self-criticism take over and you can become more punishing and hard on yourself than ever. You are not only lazy for taking time out now but might feel fat and greedy too.
Can you relate to this? If so, have a think about other ways that you could achieve that break; that oblivion; that escape from life. And importantly, give yourself permission to do this. We all need some frivolous time out and escape now and then. It is essential to allow yourself to do this in a self-caring way.
If you would like to work with me and learn to cope better with more caring and supportive strategies, then please email me today. I would love to hear from you.
Best wishes

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