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Get Jen's abs in 7 days - really?
by Harriet Frew on February 6th, 2014

​I never used to really diet as such. I felt quite proud of myself that I wasn’t drawn into all the dieting propaganda. HOWEVER, I did used to delay eating and say to people ‘ I just don’t get hungry’, when I clearly was. I also had quite rigid rules of what constituted acceptable, healthy foods and then bad, evil and fattening foods. So I didn’t call it a diet, but it was the same thing really! I was limiting my food choices because I was worried about weight gain or losing control around food. It didn’t work. It backfired on me big time.
In our culture we have a fascination and curiosity about diets and particularly around celebrities and what they eat or don’t eat and how this affects their body shape. Celebrity magazines feed our desire to know this stuff, giving us the minutiae of the edited version of what passes someone’s lips. We love this; the fascination and hope that by reading this stuff, we are going to find the answer to the elusive food and body shape combination. Then, these diets are readily available from the magazines to try for yourself. You can get Jen’s abs or Angelina’s arms in 7 days. Fancy that!
Of course we get a very one-sided view of these celeb diets. It is highly unlikely that you are ever going to hear about the more unpleasant side of food restriction and the costs of this. Over-exercise; periods of starving; bingeing; pills; feeling tired all the time; they all go on. Many a celeb books into rehab with ‘exhaustion’ and I wonder exactly what this means.  Thankfully, more people are being open about their struggles with eating such as Lady Ga Ga; Geri Halliwell; Nicole Ritchie; Jessica Alba to name a few, but on the whole this darker side of the celebrity world is kept hidden.
Knowing the negative side would spoil it all wouldn’t it? We want to hold on to the magic allure of the miracle diet. And when you start a diet, everything is fresh and shiny and new. The beginning promises so much. This is going to be the ONE, - the diet that changes everything and opens the door to freedom with food and getting slim too. But alas, a few days or weeks or longer into the diet we realise that it is not sustainable. In the end, hunger takes over and rational thought prevails. What often follows is a good binge as a protest to all the deprivations of the diet; the frustration that this one didn’t work and beating yourself up for being bad and not following through. Really though, this is a normal response. As human beings, we dislike feeling controlled; dictated to and bound by rules. Rebellion and breaking free is an inevitable outcome.
Is this you? Are you trapped in the dieting mindset and feeling fed up? Do you want to reclaim your life again and stop being held back by these issues? If so, join one of my programmes today - to change all this and feel great about food and your body again. Try a new approach and see the difference. Look forward to hearing from you.

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