No more diets and deprivation. Eat the foods you love and have a great body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
What's stopping you?
by Harriet Frew on January 29th, 2014

 Whatever your size or shape today, if you are feeling unhappy about food and your body it will be preventing you from leading your fullest life. Maybe you feel self-conscious in front of others; you are hiding away rather than socialising; you have health concerns or you are just fed up feeling down and irritable. Maybe you feel bemused about this. When something is so obviously preventing you from getting on with life, why can’t you just change? This can be very frustrating.
Interestingly, I have found that 95% of people that I have worked with are very ambivalent about change. It is absolutely normal. Why? This is because, in the short-term eating or not eating or body obsession actually solves a problem. This sometimes can feel strange to understand as this ‘problem solving’ can be quite unconscious.
Here are some examples of how in the SHORT-TERM problems are solved: -
  • Starving or over-eating can be a means of communicating feelings that cannot be expressed in other ways. Eg: a way of expressing anger and putting 2 fingers up to the world when we feel demanded of; bossed around or hurt by someone.
  • Starving and/or bingeing can be addictive and give an endorphin high. You feel instantly better.
  • It has become something that is truly yours. You have absolute control over your eating.
  • An ‘identity’. This is ME and what I do.
  • It can also be a way of keeping peo                                        ple at an emotionally safe distance. It might feel better to be safe and lonely rather than risk being vulnerable and possibly hurt. 

Of course, long-term these strategies don’t work and actually create more problems. Health deteriorates; relationships are lost; opportunities are closed off; life can become small and empty.  
Have a think, what is really stopping you? What would you lose if you suddenly felt really good about food and your body?
Once you can begin to clarify what is really stopping you, it puts you back in the driving seat for change.
Good luck with this. If you have any feedback, do let me know.

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