Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image
No food is intrinsically 'good' or 'bad'
Posted on December 13th, 2013

We all want food to be about nourishment, self-care and enjoyment. It is a real pleasure to share a favourite meal; eat some Christmas cake with friends or have mulled wine and minced pies. However, if you are restricting your food or limiting your choices because you want to control your weight then perhaps it’s hard to do these things without feeling guilty. Is this rational guilt? Bombarded with information on diets and slimming, you might think absolutely so. You may now see these foods as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’.
What you think about your food choices will naturally have an impact on what you eat; how you eat it; and how you feel about yourself. Today, if I eat chocolate; my usual thought is ‘that was really delicious. I enjoyed it’. It doesn’t impact on my day. I don’t think about it again. Once upon a time I would have chastised myself about my lack of willpower and my inability to stick to my plan. Eg: -‘ I have broken my diet plan and failed. I’m going to gain weight. I might as well go on and eat lots more’. Then of course, tomorrow, I would be back on my strict regime; giving myself a telling off for my lack of willpower and trying to shame myself back to taking control. No wonder my self-esteem used to be pretty shaky!
3 Christmas tips for eating the foods you enjoy
1.       Make a commitment to pay attention to how you think about food. This is the first step to making a change. Before you eat, pause and take stock. You have a choice here – you can start to think differently. Critical thinking makes the situation worse and you feel bad.
2.       Allow yourself to eat your favourite food in a safe situation. Eg: with a friend, sitting down at a table; when you can be distracted afterwards. This builds help up confidence that you can eat the foods you love and enjoy them. It also starts to shatter your assumptions about certain foods leading to immediate weight gain.
3.       If you do over-eat or deprive yourself, forgive yourself straight away and move on. Critical thinking is unhelpful and it won’t help you meet your goals in feeling great about food and your body.

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Inspiring you to find peace with food and your body image