Counselling support for eating disorders and body image.
Rethink your body
To get the freedom to live the life you want
by Harriet Frew on November 6th, 2018

Intuitive eating encourages you to listen to your natural hunger and to respond to it.

You eat when you are hungry and you stop when you are full; it being the complete opposite of dieting, which is often dominated by restrictive rules on food types, quantities or calories.
It also promotes a healthy attitude to food and body image.

And doesn’t it sound so simple, natural and instinctual – just like breathing in and out?
Simple maybe, but sadly, it is something that many of us have forgotten how to do. We do not trust our body or listen to its normal signals.

Instead, we hear the ‘shoulds’ and regulations that keep our appetites in check.
As a little baby, your hunger cues would certainly have been intuitive, and hopefully, with the right care and attention, you received the food you needed when hungry.

As you grew up though, external messages from family, friends and culture might well have distorted your ability to listen to your body.

As a child

‘Eat all the food on your plate, if you want dessert’                    

by Harriet Frew on October 29th, 2018

​So you are working REALLY hard to tune into your body, practice intuitive eating and to put all that dieting malarkey behind you ONCE AND FOR ALL!! 

But, it seems that everyone else under the sun just can't stop talking about their new low carb plan or intermittent fasting regime. At the water cooler at work, a night out with friends, in the hairdressers or queuing up in line to send your Amazon order back - you might feel that you can't escape it.

Isn't it SO triggering and completely demoralising? 


Maybe you are doubting yourself and thinking that perhaps, you should be back on the diet asap?

STOP! Before you return to bland, restrictive food that makes you feel deprived - remind yourself why you are not dieting anymore.

1️. Dieting doesn’t work. You might even end up gaining weight or starting to binge eat.  

2️. Diets make you sad and miserable.  

3️. Diets result in you fixating on your body in a way that destroys self-esteem.

Sadly, people do talk about diets A LOT. We can’t control this, but we can control our response. Put in your earplugs, avoid these conversations and stop comparing. Focus on your own recovery journey.

Potentially, if you work on your relationship with food, you will probably develop a greater awareness and insight about food and body image, compared to your average person in the population, who doesn't have an eating disorder, but maybe struggles to eat in a self-caring way.

STAY FOCUSED. RECOVERY IS POSSIBLE. YOU CAN DO IT!

by Harriet Frew on October 3rd, 2018

​Have you heard of Welldoing.org ?

Founded by the wonderful Louise Chunn, they can help you find the right therapist for you - an often overwhelming prospect, when you are first considering seeking help.

Welldoing.org also has lots of brilliant articles about mental health and wellbeing. Adding to their already significant resources, they are now sharing helpful info specific to your region! Here is a post about Cambridge - a beautiful city, but a place often plagued with perfectionism and anxiety in the high achieving university enviroment. Do CLICK HERE for helpful resources and info.



by Harriet Frew on September 17th, 2018

​When someone you care about develops an eating disorder,  it should not be under-estimated how stressful it can be.

You might feel hopeless, scared and upset, wanting desperately to help, whilst feeling unequipped to do so.

Maybe you have already tried to help, but found that your input has not been welcomed by your loved one.

by Harriet Frew on August 31st, 2018

​Florence Welch Opening up About Eating Disorders gives Hope to Others 

The recent comments from the singer Florence Welch about how she “started to starve herself” at the age of 17 may have shocked some– but they will have resonated with many others regardless of whether they are fans of her music or not.

Someone in the public eye opening up about an eating disorder - and documenting her struggles in a recent song, Hunger – should be applauded.

She’s young, successful – and proves that eating disorders can affect anyone. 

The charity Beat believes about 1.25m people in the UK have an eating disorder with the condition often developing during adolescence.

Florence’s words certainly struck a chord with me. I’m a therapist now, but when I was 17-years-old, I had bulimia.

My eating disorder started out as an innocent diet, following painful rejection from my first love. 

It could have remained as just a diet, but I was already vulnerable. The seeds of meagre self-worth and inadequacy - sown years previously – meant my resilience was limited. Emotionally, it was devastating.

Restricting my eating was an attempt to feel better, as it was Florence. It was a coping strategy, although I didn’t realise it then. So what can we learn?

An emotional issue
Eating disorders are not about vanity or being a certain dress size. They are emotional problems. They are complex, psychological illnesses – and the numbers are rising.

Masking something far deeper 
We know that young people are under intense pressure. Research from the Prince’s Trust shows that some feel powerless, and are anxious about their future. So they look to the things they can control. But an eating disorder is an often unconscious plaster concealing a much deeper wound.

Help and hope is out there
Eating disorders are treatable illnesses through psychological treatment, and – as with all physical or mental health conditions – the earlier the intervention, the higher the opportunity of a full recovery. 

Personally, I recovered in my mid-20 through a combination of sources - therapy, friendships, reading and trial and error. Today, the condition is much more recognised and understood. Psychological therapy gives people the tools for change.

We can’t hide from it – and it can no longer be taboo to talk about.

More people like Florence Welch speaking out will help others gain the strength to know they are not alone and seek help.


Thanks Andy Burrows at Cambridgeshire and Peterborough Foundation Trust for input on this blog post.







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